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How to Give Encouragement to a Child
  1. Regard him as a human being who is entitled to be treated with dignity and respect.
  2. Show an interest in him. Be there for him when he is involved in something special.
  3. Forbid his siblings from calling him names or hurting his feelings.
  4. Correct him by explaining what he needs to do without insulting him.
  5. Train him to be self-confident. Take time to help him learn to do everyday jobs and tasks.
  6. Compare him to himself and nobody else.
  7. Encourage him to think of his own solutions for solving problems. Show confidence in him.
  8. Show an interest in his opinion. Include his ideas in family decisions.
  9. Acknowledge what he does well in all of his efforts.
  10. Communicate to him that you value his effort.
  11. Help him develop independence. Give him opportunities to do things on his own.
  12. Remain emotionally connected to him, even when you are disappointed or upset with him.
  13. Be gentle when helping him recognize areas he needs to improve in.
  14. Give him at least two hugs a day.
  15. Tell him daily that you love him.
  16. Intentionally plan to spend time alone with him.
  17. Establish clear rules and consequences and be prompt to enforce them.
  18. Confront him about the problem at hand only.
  19. Acknowledge his accomplishments.
  20. Love him no matter what.
  21. Correct him and let him know it is because you want him to be his best.
  22. Wait until you are calm before you discipline him.
  23. Give him a reason why whenever you discipline him.
  24. Use consequences that are not overwhelming.
  25. Address him with the same respect you want to be addressed with.
  26. Say “no” and tell him your reason why.
  27. Speak to him in ways that respect and protect his feelings.
  28. Discuss his problems with him privately.
  29. Make giving him your attention a top priority.
  30. Make him feel just as valued and important as his brothers and sisters.
  31. Let him know that you care about his feelings.
  32. Be intentional about doing and saying things that make him feel important.
  33. Help him develop a positive self-image of himself.
  34. Apologize to him whenever you have wrongfully offended him.
  35. Respect that he is a unique individual without comparing to his other parent.
  36. Always be honest with him.
  37. Regard family mealtime together as crucial to nurturing his self-worth and your relationship with him.

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